Jason “Jay” Hay

Jason Hay, known as “Jay” to many, passed away at his home in Shawnee, KS on February 24th, 2020. He had just celebrated his 27th birthday.  Jay was a wonderful loving son, husband and daddy. He loved spending time with his family and working out at the gym. He was a member of Westside Family Church and was active in his local AA group. Jay was an inspiration and testament to many who struggle with the disease of alcohol addiction.

He is survived by his wife and best friend, Kristin, their son, Elias Dolton, who just celebrated his 1st birthday, his daughter, Peyton Raylee, 4, her mom, Courtney Bova, his parents, Doug and Michele, his sisters, Erin and Kylie Hay, his Gram, Diane Dolton and grandparents, Bob and Barbara Hay. He was proceeded in death by his Pop Pop, Mike Dolton.

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A celebration of his life will be held at 2 PM on Saturday, February 29th at Amos Family Funeral Home, 10901 Johnson Drive, Shawnee KS 66203.


In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorial donations to Valley Hope, 1816 N 2nd St, Atchinson, KS 66002 or Little House AA Group, 13005 W 92nd St, Shawnee Mission, KS 66215.


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Posted in Kansas City Obituaries, Obituaries | on Wednesday, Feb. 26th 2020 | 32 Comments »

32 Comments on “Jason “Jay” Hay”

  1. Breninger Says:

    We are so incredibly sorry for your loss, you are constantly in our hearts and prayers.

  2. Denise LeValley Says:

    Doug – I am so sorry for your loss and am sending prayers to you and your family. He was always so friendly and outgoing to everyone at IT when he came to work out with you after school. What a beautiful, young soul.

  3. Becci Olson Says:

    We are so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news. There are no good words that come to express our sympathies and sorrow. Just know that even though our families have grown up in different areas,and we didn’t have a lot of together time as kids, we still have that blood connection that was instilled in our childhood and bonds us forever in our souls. We are hurting for your family and hope that God places his healing, comforting hands upon you and yours as you grieve. Sending our love!

  4. Rob Pitcairn Says:

    So sorry Doug. They say the loss leaves a scar. The deeper the love, the deeper the scar. As you told me, celebrate the memories. Fill the hole with his spirit. RIP

  5. Laura Thatcher Says:

    We all love you. Always remember.

  6. Kelley Collins Says:

    There are no words to express how deeply sorry I am knowing you are going through this. Praying the Lord provides comfort during this incredibly difficult time. Your family is in my prayers.

  7. Tammi Hindman Says:

    Michelle & Doug, I am so very sorry for your loss of Jason. He is forever in your hearts. Until you meet again in heaven, remember he knows your prayers for him. Jason will leave you signs that his spirit hears you when you talk to him. I am praying comfort & peace for you & your family.
    Tammi (Turner) Hindman, Lee’s Summit, MO.

  8. Chris Baxter Says:

    Doug and Michelle, this rips my heart out. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

  9. Erica Locke Says:

    Doug and Family–My heart hurts for you so much, as I am a bereaved parent too. I’m praying for your strength and comfort on this difficult path. Hope you feel my hug!

  10. Tracy potter (Katie hays friend) Says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss prayers sent. Alcoholic and addicts are struggling everyday and as I am fighting it every second,minute,hour,and every day….i pray people will realize at some point , that we don’t choose it anymore yet it still chooses us…more support and help are needed in this world ….its just too hard to do by ourselves…im going on 2weeks clean and sober…and I’m going to keep sober (hopefully) forever yet another day in remembrance of Jay Hay…may god bless you all…Jay,.. God bless you and ur family….im sorry it won again

  11. Tony Younger Says:

    My breaks for your family. Jason (JD) felt much like a part of our family. I have many fond memories of our boys playing together. I wish you all peace. Love to all.

  12. Erin English Says:

    Jay was an exceptional young man – son, husband, father, friend. John and I are deeply grieved to hear of his passing. I smile remembering his unique gift, serving with our 3 year olds at church – the toddler whisperer and bye-bye buggy extraordinaire. I loved watching him with Kristin and his two beautiful babies. A spitting image of his dad, Doug. Jay, you will be forever missed but never forgotten. Until we meet again, rest in peace friend.

  13. Tammy, Daryl, Jake and Logan Potts Says:

    Words cannot express the heartache we share with you.
    Godspeed healing prayer and comfort to your family, folks, friends.
    You will be missed.

  14. Gary & Robin Cooper Says:

    Doug and Michelle. Our hearts are torn.Jay wasn’t only a friend but was like a son to us. We will always cherish the memories he left with us. It’s pretty amazing how one young man can bring two families together and have a lasting relationship but it was effortless for him. Robin and I will always love and miss Jay. Rest in peace our friend

  15. Meshia Powell Says:

    Michele- I pray your family look to the Lord from which all your help comes from. The Father knows what you have been through and He will provide you with the right people that will surround you, encourage you, comfort you, and lift your guys up. Grieve your loss but good news is you don’t have to grieve like those who have no hope. You can stand in confidence that you will be united with Jay again. Besides my prayers, please let us know if there is ANYTHING we can do for you guys as you enter this new life without your beloved son. Peace and Love

  16. Tracy Fouts Says:

    My heart is shattered by this news. I have some great childhood memories of Chance and Jason. I am so sad. My heart goes out to all the family. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  17. Karen Voorhees Says:

    Oh Doug and Michele..I am so sorry..I hurt for you.

  18. Kim Denning Says:

    Michele-I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  19. Barbara Euceda Says:

    I am truly sorry for your passing. Jay will always be remember. For the good man he was to us here at work. We will remember the good he done for us and showed us to be positive and great. We will pray for him and his family .

  20. Vic and Dianne Sisk Says:

    Doug, we are so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. Our prayers are with you during this difficult time.

  21. Trekeia Jackson Says:

    So deeply saddened by the loss of your precious son. As a mom of 3 I know each child adds something unique and precious to your life and heart. Praying for your strength, comfort and for your entire family. So sorry for your loss.

  22. Darrin Sisk Says:

    Doug – So sorry to hear this heartbreaking news. My prayers will include you and your family during this time.

  23. Tiffany wintrode Says:

    I worked with Jay at s & S Activewear, and he was a lead….. He was an amazing person. I can’t believe this has happened….. He will be missed dearly and already is.

  24. Gary and Cathy Hightower Says:

    Doug and Michelle we are so sorry for your loss. No parent should have to experience this. I remember Jay when all the kids would play in the neighborhood together. He was a sweet kid. May the good Lord give you peace in the days ahead. He will always be in your hearts until you meet again.

  25. Nayeli Ibarra Says:

    My deepest condolences to Jay’s family. He was always seen at work as a good worker, keeping to himself but also friendly. He was fair but firm when he had a position of authority over others. He definitely knew we were a melting pot of people and did not treat anybody any different. Always calling us “amiga” and “amigo” which means friend. He will be truly missed. A good memory I have about him is a conversation we had about our kids. He made it known they ment everything to him. I pray his family can find comfort in knowing God is always good and He doesn’t make mistakes.

  26. Terry Rees Says:

    Doug & Michelle, my heart aches for you you both in the loss of your child. I hope you are able to bear the unbearable.

  27. Tony and Stacy Says:

    Although JD was 2 years older than our Jason, he never seemed to mind spending time with Jason (and even Ryan) growing up. Both of my kids always looked up to him and remember their time together fondly.

  28. Keri Searl Says:

    Michele-My heart aches for you after the devastating loss of your son. May God surround you with peace,love,and strength to keep you going during this excruciating time. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers ♥️ May the memories bring you much comfort. Sending much love your way!

  29. Mrs. Sabrina Casper, CCE Teacher Says:

    The world, your world especially, will feel a great loss, always, but I hope the happy moments and God’s arms wrap around you all.
    Love, Mrs. C

  30. Debra Toburen Clark Says:

    Doug and Michelle,
    I am so sorry for the loss of your son. You both are in my thoughts at this difficult time. My sympathies to your family as well.

  31. Debbie Brummel Says:

    Michele and family,
    I just heard from Lora about your tragic loss. My heart hurts for you honey. I’ll be praying for you. Meshia is right, you have comfort in knowing you’ll be united with your son someday. I understand in the meantime your pain and grief is tremendous. Oh my, I’m so very sorry.

  32. Melissa Bruce and Coltion Sawyer Says:

    Mr. Hay and family… I am so sorry for your loss. Colton and I are thinking about you. We will continue to pray for you.

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